Insecure vs Confidence

"Insecurity will destroy you and your relationship! Confidence is attractive!"

I retweet that in the morning, since I bet- a lot of people around us are living in a low level of confidence.

Including me.

Insecurity- it has been moled into my life for the past 26 years.

Even I had been thought, been advised to be confident in anything I do.

Stiil, the insecurity of myself can be seen!

It is so obvious when comes to "relationship"

I was a very insecure Girlfriend.

-Full of jealousy and never believe in everything my partner said or whatever I did for both of us in the relationship.

If they didn't call/text- I wonder what was wrong with them?

Did I do something wrong?

Did I hurt them with my language?

"Are they having fun with anyone else?"

"Are they forgotten me already?"

"They just don't love me anymore?"

If they didnt say "I miss you or I love you" towards the end of conversation-

I assumed that- They just dont love me.. and then..all this pretty-cute-but-annoying-question came out from my mouth

"Don't you miss me?"

or

"Do you love me?"

Insecure-insecure-insecure.

Fuck all that!

It is unhealthy attitude in a relationship.

Jealousy comes from the insecurity.

The insecurity might be the reason why he/she left you or you decided to go!

How to gain "confidence" in life?

By adapting all the experience that you gain in everyday life.

There are no top class university could make you gain your self-confident.

Even they could teach you -how to be confident.

Its all up to you to decide.

No one could force you to do it. Even you parents can only tell you how to look confident.

Insecurity could destroy your lovelife and your relationship with all the people in the world.

Please tell me..is there anyone in the world wants to be interact with a person who always thought that they are "stupid", "unpretty", "not-good enough in everything they do", "extrovert", "never trust her/himself" , "negative towards everything in life.." ALL the time??

We want to live the life to the fullest.

Enjoying every single details that happened in our life.

Becoming a confident person is part and parcel in making your life much more fun!

Learn how to be confident despite whatever people say about you.

Believe in yourself.

Felling down is normal.

Jealousy is also pretty normal but you just have to set a standard on the " healthy-jealousy-level"

Like a good friend, Coco always said "Confident itu penting ye!" =)

Still, I am dealing with "insecurity" every now and then.

Be confident, it easy to say.

Its hard to be -one!

I am sick of you and because of you I am sick

Lets not pointing to anyone.

It perfectly just you!

You made my life upside down.

Its just you. Nothing else.

Dear Mr Sore throat,

I bet you came due to the weather..

Even you are blaming the weather..I am still pointing my finger to you.

Uh Uh..

No..don't you ever say that my consumption of ciggies is the reason why you are here..

Its just you.

You are not in a right position to tell me that I did not drink a lot of water for the past one week..

and you made up all that just to stand on your motion that I am the one to be blame??

(I am a bit denial)

Well, to sum its up..everything plays a role for this pathetic sore throat which just made me received my 1st MC in the new organization.

Tadaaaa

Its so hot out there..I could even sleep at all in the whole afternoon even I am partly sick!

We might need some water pour from the above which we called it- RAIN.

Sighh...

Positive Note

Being negative towards my own life is always -me.

Looking at things differently just make me think of the negative thoughts.

That is not healthy.

I know.

Yet, with the negative aura..I live my life with tons of beautiful memories and the worst case scenario that always come-and-go.

However, some people mistaken that I am actually passing the negativity to other people's life.

No.

I didn't do it and so far as I remember, I havent done such a way yet.

I know we were given different path of life.

You might going to A and I might leaving the B to follow the route C.

It will never be the same.

I always showered my people with the positive note.

Especially friends who always be there for me.

When someone came and ask for an opinion..I tried to find the win-win solution for them.

Especially on the most complicated and the most important essence in life which called-LOVE.

No.

I am not the love doctor.

How could you be the love-doctor if you..yourself not even having one?

Stilll, the terms LOVE is quite subjective eh.

I am more giving them opinion on the other perspective in relationship matters.

Even my lovelife suck previously and till now...like I dont have any?!

Doesnt mean I cant help others!

And yet..when I get into so"positive"..still some people think that I am nonsense!

Dah!

No one wants to see the people that they love having a bad day, a JK moments, the down situation or whatever they called it!

Sometimes, money is not the answer for everything even money could buy happiness.

Supporting your people with the best positive opinion is more than enough sometimes. or most of the time.

As a human, we could tell them our opinion or "If I were you" kinda thing.

Giving the pro and cons on every scenario that they are dealing with are the best that I can do..most of the time.

We can't force them and tell them what to do.

They are matured enough to think whats the best for them.

Seeing they happy with their own choice is the greatest feeling on earth- at least for me.

Let them decide on anything that suits them best.

As a friend, you can only listen and give your personal opinion.

I always make sure this sentence came out from my mouth towards the end of the conversation

"I already tell you what are pro and cons of this. Now, its your call to make the decision!"

and yet..I am still here to listen and give my opinion on whatever trouble that they facing after the decision or so called their "bad-judgement" been made.

What friends for?

Make them happy and comfy when they with you.

Thats the real friendship.

And please put everything negative thoughts on their scenario.

Tell yourself that..

"Your life are different than mine..The steps that you took might be opposite than the one I chose!"

Trust me..you'll be happy. Sure, it works! I have done it hundred times.

That is why ..my friends are my family now.

They appreciate you more than the rest since you always be a good listener and supporting them in any kind of situation of their life.

Please don't judge and please leave the thoughts of -"I have to make my life better than yours!"

Since we are just human and we still make mistakes everyday.

Good night people!

=D

"Wanita yang lagi satu"/ "Wanita lain"

"Wanita lain" atau "Wanita lagi satu" mempunyai definisi yang sama dengan

The Other Woman.

Menjadi pihak ketiga dalam sesebuah perhubungan kasih sayang orang lain adalah juga merujuk kepada - wanita yang lagi satu.

• Perampas
• Pengacau
• Perempuan tak tahu malu
• Perempuan tak sedar diri
• Perempuan sundal
• Perempuan jalang

dan pelbagai panggilan negatif diatas juga merujuk kepada - Wanita yang lagi satu

Siapa suka kehadiran adanya "Wanita yang lagi satu" atau "Wanita lain" dalam perhubungan cinta atau perkahwinan?

Tak ada.

Wanita lain ini juga selalu diklasifikasikan sebagai perempuan jahat.

Pernah tak korang terfikir pepatah ini - "Tepuk sebelah tangan ..takkan berbunyi"?

Ramai wanita yang dah berkahwin(malah ada yang baru berkahwin tak sampai 5 tahun) meroyan-royan macam orang hilang akal dalam ruang sosial internet apabila dapat tahu si suami yang diletak atas kepala dan disanjung tinggi..ataupun yang di anggap macam malaikat itu- KANTOI mempunyai hubungan dengan "wanita lain" di luar perkahwinan mereka.

Mungkin tindak tanduk meletakkan "cerita dalam kain" pada tatapan umum menjadi satu trend masa kini..

Waimah begitu...pernahkah terfikir yang "menjatuhkan air muka suami" itu bukankah ianya berdosa?

Bukan nak menyokong suami2 korang kahwin lebih daripada satu!

Memang takkkkk laaaahhhhh kannnn!!!

Boys will be boys..

Dah nama pun jantan. Mana pernah cukup satu..Memang hakikatnya dah macam gitu!

Yang gediknya- si isteri2 yang meroyan tak tentu pasal tu!

Janganlah malukan suami korang dan terutamanya malukan diri sendiri!

Ini yang baru dikatakan "Tak tahu malu"

Jaja cerita dalam kelambu, dalam kain pada ratusan manusia dalam facebook..twitter dan juga blog. Adeh...sakit mataku!

Cerita suami sendiri ada affair dengan perempuan lain, sapa perempuan tu, nama dia..pakai baju apa, rupa dia macam mana (yang penting dia lagi cantik dr korang kan??) dan lain2 lagi cerita....

Sebenarnya, bila korang buat macamtu, niat korang nak malukan "wanita yang lagi satu" itu dah jadi terbalik.

Korang memalukan diri sendiri aje.

Lepas maki-maki orang dalam segala laman sosial internet bagai...

Korang sebut-sebut nama tuhan, mintak tuhan datangkan "bala" pada si "wanita lain" itu.

Dah...tambah lagi satu dosa..

Mendoakan manusia lain ditimpa kecelakaan?

Bagus betul ye amalan itu.. =) Sapa ajar korang?

Aku dah baca banyak cerita2 makian..cercaan pada "wanita yang lagi satu" dalam internet ni.

Aku kasihan pada si penulis itu..si isteri yang diduakan suaminya

Si isteri yang memberi sepenuh kasih sayang, cinta dunia dan akhirat..

Si isteri yang berharap sang suami itu mampu membawanya ke syurga...

Si isteri yang mahukan "eternity love" dan "happily ever after"

Si isteri yang kecewa amat sangat bagai malam bertukar jadi siang dan siang bertukar jadi malam.

Tak ke jahanam sang suami itu?

(Ok..sedikit emo)

Macam aku cakap tadi..

Boys will be boys..

The word "men" is just not significant enough for these kinds of guy.

Kenapa isteri-isteri itu meroyan?

Kerana mereka kecewa dan yang penting..5W +1H punya soalan akan keluar dari hati si isteri apabila terjadinya kes sang suami hidung belang dan menyimpan "wanita lain" di luar rumah.

• What are you doing?
• When it started?
• Why are you doing this to me?
• Who is she?
• Where is she staying?

and

• How it happened/ How does she look like???

Syurganya isteri letak di bawah kaki suami.

Aku mengerti konsep tersebut walaupun aku takut dan tak mahu fikir untuk menghadapi kenyataan itu.

"Nothing lasts forever, woman!"

"Wanita yang lagi satu" itu pun tak hingin nak jadi begini.

Jadi yang belum ada laki macam aku ni kena berhati-hati...

Cinta itukan subjektif.

Cinta boleh datang dengan tiba-tiba.

Cinta itu diibaratkan berbentu sfera.

Tiada hujungnya antara manusia.

Suami korang yang di junjung diatas kepala itu ...haruslah disoal siasat dahulu ye!

Jangan salahkan orang terus..

Salahkan laki kita dulu!

Jangan canang sekampung!

Tak payah bikin malu...

Ramai orang kasihan

Tapi sebenarnya ketawakan kita..

Kata "tak pandai jaga laki..tu pasal laki dia buat camtu!.."

Cerita rumahtangga yang tak enak tak perlu dijaja merata dunia..

Aku simpati pada sang2 isteri yang dirobek perasaan murninya...

Kepada sang suami..

"Haihsssshhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!! Fikir guna akal boleh tak?"

"Berkongsi kasih bukan sedapnya di anu saje, ok?"

Cinta itu perasaan.

Seks itu nafsu.

Tak sama ok.

Ada paham?